Archive for the ‘Family’ Category

Welcome Luke Allen Rogers!

June 12, 2008

We are rejoicing in our gracious God’s gift to us as a family, our first child, Luke Allen Rogers, who came at 8:45pm, Tuesday, June 10, 2008. He weighed 7 pounds 15 ounces and was 20 and one half inches long.

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Waiting with Great Thanksgiving

May 25, 2008

photo by BB Rogers Photography

My wife and I are expecting our first child on June 13 (give or take two weeks). As the day draws nearer, it seems like there is an increasing amount of opportunities for thanksgiving to our great God in this precious gift of life. This, of course, only testifies to my former blindness. Opportunities for thanksgiving are increasing only because I did not see them before and the Lord has graciously been opening my eyes to behold his abundant kindness in the conception of and anticipation for this child. Not only has he done so through the reading of his word, but also and more recently through the love expressed from the body of Christ. They have lavished us with prayer, clothing, time, money, and other gifts that will aid in the rearing of our baby. Furthermore, I have had the opportunity to watch a network of love amongst the women in our local church body (Redeemer), who often go to great lengths to supply clothes, equip with wisdom, and encourage in the word my wife and each other during pregancy and after they have given birth. What a joy to be a part of this time, and even more, to have my eyes opened.

“So Boaz took Ruth, and she became his wife. And he went in to her, and the Lord gave her conception, and she bore a son” (Ruth 4:13).

“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward” (Psalm 127:3).

“…giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…” (Ephesians 5:20).

Sex, Romance, & The Glory of God

May 10, 2008

Mahaney, C. J. Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God: What Every Christian Husband Needs to Know. Wheaton: Crossway, 2004. 139 pp.

Husbands often forsake or ignore the delightful duty of romance God has ordained for them to share often and well with their wives. As far as intimacy goes, sex is often the primary concern of many husbands to the neglect of both the romance God has designed her to receive and perhaps even the celebration God has intended it to be for his glory. In Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God, C. J. Mahaney, president of Sovereign Grace Ministries, promotes a biblical understanding of not only the intimacy shared in the bedroom (glorious as God has created it), but also the romance that ought always and persistently to precede it. As he susinctly repeats throughout the book, “Before you touch her [your wife’s] body, touch her heart and mind.”

Mahaney begins with a biblical understanding of sex, being sure to highlight that it is part of God’s good creation and a result of his wise design for the marriage relationship. For this reason, it ought to be celebrated to his glory and used often to both serve and strengthen the marriage relationship. With repeated reference to the Song of Songs, and explanations accompanied by good Christian scholarship, he shows how this book both aides in and grants hope for the fruitfulness of biblical intimacy in the husband’s relationship to his wife.

Before Mahaney tackles the “sex chapter”, however, he first emphasizes the role and responsibility of the husband in learning, leading, and loving his wife. To put it plainly, great sex is the result of a healthy, intimate, covenant relationship that is cultivated long before a married couple enter the bedroom. With some of the most godly wisdom, practical suggestions, and humble exhortations, Mahaney devotes several chapters to ensure husbands are aware of their responsibilities in studying their wife (i.e. deliberately being interested in, knowing, and understanding all aspects of their physical and spiritual well-being), leading her in a godly marriage relationship (e.g. in theological knowledge, with spirtual disciplines, and toward closer levels of intimacy), and loving her with biblical affections (e.g. by kindling romance or winning her with “carefully composed words”).

His book concludes with an exhortation for husbands to “let the unifying, unquenchable power of covenant love continually strengthen your marriage in every way, that you and your wife mighty testify to the world and to one another the goodness of God” (104). An added bonus for the wife is also included at the end. This short chapter is titled, “A Word to Wives from Carolyn Mahaney” (which is also called “The Purity of Pleasure”, chapter 5 in her book Feminine Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother).

Overall, Mahaney’s work is well worth every Christian husband’s read. It is biblical, thoughtful, and practical. It is also a fairly quick read, one well worth repeated readings throughout the marriage (I just finished my second.). It supplies husbands with a biblical understanding of sex, romance, and their design to glorify God in marriage intimacy, and provides excellent advice/ideas that will cotinually strengthen the relationship.

The Husband’s Duty in the Family’s Pursuit of Joy in God

June 30, 2007

I just finished writing a paper for one of my classes called The Christian Home. It was an attempt to write a biblical theology on the man’s role in the home both as a husband and father. I posted it on the “Theology & Exegesis” page under the subheading “Practical Papers.” I included the introduction below to give you a flavor of where the paper is headed.

“In this present evil age, either passivity, resulting in uninterested, weak, apathetic households, or domination, resulting in stiff, joyless, and, sometimes, violent environments plague male leadership in the home. Although both sinful dispositions exist in the hearts of men worldwide, submission to the Lord in his designed role for the husband/father will surely advance the eradication of such ungodliness from the home. God established the husband as head over his wife and the father as head over the home so that through the fulfillment of this man’s responsibilities the family would aim to pursue their joy in God.” (To view the entire paper click here.)

The S-Word

June 25, 2007

Our pastor has been preaching through Ephesians since before Bret and I started attending Redeemer ten months ago. Last week and this week, he expounded to us Ephesians 5:22-24:

“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, His body, and is Himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”

Now, from this very politically incorrect passage of Scripture, the Lord used Pastor Tim to teach clearly and winsomely the beautiful, biblical meaning of submission. Week One covered the meaning of submission. Week Two was today’s sermon, which was very practical, and as Bret would say, “pastoral.” It was incredibly helpful to me in evaluating whether I am fulfilling God’s command to me to submit to my own husband. Here are some of the main points and questions for us, as wives, to ask ourselves in a manner that is not legalistic, but out of love for Christ and genuine desire to obey him.

Pastor Tim said that a submissive wife:

  • Makes home a safe place with her encouragement, comfort, and understanding (Prov 31:11-12, 21-22)
  • Is trustworthy and dependable (Prov 31:11-12)
  • Maintains a good attitude (Prov 31:25-26)
  • Discusses things in a loving, open, and honest way (Eph 4:25)
  • Is content
  • Is patient, forgiving, forbearing (Col 3:12)
  • Is industrious for the sake of her husband and family (Psalm 128:3)
  • Offers suggestions, advice, counsel, and correction with respect and love
  • Cultivates inner beauty (1 Pet 3:3-5)
  • Pursues God and His glory above all
  • Builds loyalty to her husband in her children
  • Is grateful and expresses thanks often
  • Shows confidence in her husband’s decisions

Wives, are you living this before your husband?

He followed this list with three categories of questions to help wives examine themselves and their obediance to this command:

  1. What thoughts spring into my mind when I think about my husband? Are they honoring of him?
  2. How do I speak to my husband? When we’re alone? In front of the children? In public? How do I speak about him?
  3. Do I show my husband respect by my actions? In the way I listen to him?

Then he challenged us to find ten specific ways to show respect to our husbands, and then discuss the ideas with them. I haven’t done this yet, but I’m going to, and I’m so thankful for the specific direction to help me foster and portray respect to my husband.

May the Almighty God raise us up as women who out of fear and delight in the Lord, obey Him by respecting and submitting to our husbands.

True Sexual Morality

May 22, 2007

Recovering Biblical Standards for a Culture in Crisis 

Heimbach, Daniel. True Sexual Morality: Recovering Biblical Standards for a Culture in Crisis. Wheaton: Crossway Books, 2004. 528 pp. $25.00.

For Daniel Heimbach, “The greatest single moral-spiritual threat to truth in our culture these days is a rising fascination with paganism that defines morality as anything spiritual and then reduces it to anything sexual” (38). While modernism encouraged people to deny spiritual life, “arguing that morality is a matter of private taste and therefore biblical standards on sex have to be kept from influencing public life,” “…postmodernism affirms [spiritual life]” (41, 42). Heimbach argues, however, that the spirituality postmodernists affirm is pagan, not Christian (42). “It approaches spirituality in a way that views it, not as something beyond but rather as something under human control, and this makes sexual morality even more radically permissive” (42, author’s emphasis).

In the footsteps of Abraham Kuyper, C. S. Lewis, Francis Schaeffer, and Carl F. H. Henry, Heimbach is on a campaign calling all genuine evangelicals to stand firm against the growing tide of sexual paganism. In observing the works published by militant feminists, unrepentant homosexuals, liberal theologians, and apostate Christian leaders (even those disguising themselves as “evangelical”), Heimbach unveils the destructive paganism infiltrating American mainline denominations, even some evangelical assemblies and institutions. This book covers all aspects of their rebellion: the re-institution of goddess worship and the sacramental practices of child sacrifice (otherwise, and sadly, known as abortion); the slander of Jesus Christ as a sadomasochist and his cross-death as a form of divine child abuse; the veneration of Jezebel and the feminization of Yahweh; the glad acceptation of pornography as expression and the utter rejection of the imago Dei; the unfaithful escape of divorce and the forfeiture of biblical manhood and womanhood. Thoroughly, thoughtfully, and compassionately, Heimbach unpacks these devastating facts in order to quicken the church to be aggressive in their love for sinners who fail to see the glory of God in Christ.

Moreover, Heimbach unpacks the solution for such problems, namely, a return to a God-centered worldview based upon the Scriptures. He upholds biblical holiness, moral purity, godly principles, spiritual joy, and divine beauty so as to squelch any destructive sparks of paganism. Heimbach grounds sexual morality in the holiness of God and equips the church with the sword of the Spirit, that she might fight the good fight against the old, now revived paganism. Without doubt, Heimbach has issued a clarion call for the genuine evangelical community to stand firm upon the “goodness of God with true sexual morality,” so that people are not “led astray by counterfeits” (359). Scholars, Pastors, and Laymen, this book is well worth your time.